Sometimes a person just doesn’t like you, and you’re not sure why. We’ve all experienced this. Whether it’s a colleague at work, a relative, or an ornery neighbor, my simple method will often repair the relationship instantly.
I’ve used this powerful tactic dozens of times in my life, so consider that it has been thoroughly field tested. I’ve even used it at poker to convert belligerent opponents from enemies to friends.You’ll be surprised how quickly and permanently this will fix the problem.
How to apply the technique
Ask a question. Seek advice. That’s all there is to it. When you surprise Paula, who has always been hostile toward you for no apparent reason, by asking for advice, you’re likely to see a sudden change in her attitude toward you.
Just take her aside as if there have never been hard feelings and say something like, “I have a tough situation. How would you handle this?” Make certain that the advice you’re seeking has nothing whatsoever to do with your personal relationship. Try to make the question seem natural by choosing a topic that relates to Paula’s professional, family, or social expertise.
You’ve flattered Paula by valuing her opinion and — very often — you’ll have made all her negative feelings instantly disappear. You’ve won a friend going forward. Sound too simple? Try it. — MC
5 thoughts on “MCU life tip: Change foes to friends by seeking advice”
Great advice, Mike! I can’t wait to try it, just need a hostile subject. ;)
This is timely! Yesterday at the WSOP national series event in Venice, a player simply hated me. As a rare female in the Italian field, I often feel singled out as a foe. Unfortunately, my Italian isn’t at a level high enough to use this technique. Any other suggestions?
Hi, Kelly —
Good luck in the tournament. I’d have to think about it, but I doubt that my advice would work directly in the language-barrier situation you describe. Sorry. Just win.
Great logical advice that I plan to start putting to use immediately! Seems to me this will also decrease the probability that I would put myself on tilt in reaction to someone who openly didn;t like me at a poker table. Thanks, Mr. Caro!
This is good advice! I have done this, and it works amazingly well. Why not make a new friend?
Thanks Mike for all of your advice and knowledge.